SINGLE & DATING
What is dating really?
Explore dating practices, dating culture, dating psychology, expectations, and better dating outcomes.
RELATIONSHIPS
Better relationships begin with better understanding.
Whether you are dating, in a relationship, or building as a couple, LFS examines the person, the relationship, and what may be influencing both.
IN A RELATIONSHIP
What does being in a relationship mean?
Examine what is happening within your relationships and what may be influencing them. What should be established before entering a relationship?
COUPLES
What are you building together?
Examine communication, connection, conflict, competency, compatibility, and what each person is contributing.
LOVE MATTERS
What is Love?
Do you love her or him? What do you mean when you say you love someone? What role should love play in a relationship? LFS examines love beyond the word itself.
Love Languages
Let’s examine the so-called “Love Languages,” what they attempt to explain, and what they may not explain.
Validation Is Not Verification
Feeling understood matters. But agreement and validation do not automatically establish that a belief, interpretation, or conclusion is accurate.
Explanation Is Not Exemption
Understanding why someone responds a certain way does not remove responsibility for what happens next.
THE THREE Cs
Connection. Competency. Compatibility.
Love can be real and a relationship can still be unworkable. LFS examines whether two people can connect, possess the competencies a healthy relationship requires, and are compatible enough to build together.
Connection
Competency
Compatibility
COMMUNICATION & CONFLICT
What happens when comfort is no longer doing the work?
Stress, disagreement, investment, expectations, sex, and conflict can reveal what each person is actually operating from.
Communication
Communication isn’t just words. Communication contains an array of languages. Language is the translation of what a person is attempting to communicate. Communication can break down because of language. Let’s explore these so that we can understand, and get the best results.
Conflict
Conflict can reveal competency—how people regulate, communicate, listen, respond, repair, and move forward.
Sex & Meaning
Sex is physical, but human sexuality rarely exists only at the physical level. LFS examines the meaning, expectations, attachment, communication, and beliefs that can surround it.
START HERE
What relationship question are you trying to answer?
Use the LFS starting-point assessment or explore coaching if you want to examine your situation more personally.